Many Ladies
“I accumulated silver and gold for myself, the treasures of kings and of provinces. I gathered male and female singers for myself, as well as what brings great pleasure to the sons of men—a woman, yes, many women.". - Ecclesiastis 2:8
Exquisite Delights of the Sons of Men
As I studied Ecclesiastes 2:8, I found Solomon’s words intriguing. In the 2007 Russian New World Translation, the verse referenced “mankind’s voluptuous delights, many a lady.”( "great pleasure to the sons of men—a woman, yes, many women."- in Study Bible NWT@2015,2024 and "the exquisite delights of the sons of mankind, a lady, even ladies". - NWT with References @1984). However, when I compared it with the King James Version and the American Standard Version, the phrase was translated differently, referring to musical instruments instead. While I deeply appreciate the power of music—it has captivated me for hours on end—and I can believe that at a certain stage in his spiritual journey Solomon may have considered it one of life’s greatest pleasures, I question whether that was his intended meaning in the scripture as rendered in the New World Translation. Considering the vast number of wives and concubines Solomon had, it seems more likely that he was referring not to music, but to women themselves as a pinnacle of delight for the sons of men.
That said, I can accept that Solomon may have been expressing something deeper than mere physical attraction—perhaps elevating the appreciation of women beyond sensual pleasure. This is especially evident in the Song of Solomon, where we see both the expression of passionate desire for the female form and the contrast of romantic love that lifts human relationships to the level of the highest, unshakable principles. The combination of both—passion and principled love—may very well represent the most desirable pursuit for any son of man. I invite the reader to keep this perspective in mind throughout the reasoning in this chapter.
The same could be said for the ancient Greek world, where indulgence in fleshly desires was prevalent. As the apostle Paul wrote: "God made you alive, though you were dead in your trespasses and sins, in which you at one time walked according to the system of things of this world, according to the ruler of the authority of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience. Yes, among them we all at one time conducted ourselves in harmony with the desires of our flesh, carrying out the will of the flesh and of our thoughts, and we were naturally children of wrath just as the rest" (Ephesians 2:1-3).
Solomon failed to follow Jehovah’s law by multiplying wives, including women from nations Jehovah had specifically warned against. Solomon knew well the principle: “Because sentence against a bad deed has not been executed speedily, the heart of men becomes emboldened to do bad” (Ecclesiastes 8:11). Yet, he disregarded this warning.
Jehovah, on His part, acts in harmony with His ultimate purpose. He allowed Solomon and others to play their roles in progressing His developments, knowing that judgment would come in its due time. As the Bible assures us, Jehovah will bring everything into judgment, ensuring that all accounts are settled during the 1,000 years of judgment. This period will serve to square all matters and restore righteousness. (For further insights on judgment, see the chapter: "Power of Reason vs. Twisted Things.")
Back to our theme: As I delved further into Solomon’s writings, I found that alternative translations, such as The Bible in Living English and Rotherham’s Emphasized Bible, brought a fresh perspective by restoring references to “a wife and wives” or “many a lady.” This interpretation resonated deeply with my reflections on human relationships and the powerful emotions they evoke.
For clarity, my initial introduction to this verse in a translation I first used to learn Bible content suggested themes of musical instruments—or the magic of music. That understanding remained with me until I received the New World Translation in Russian in 2007. Admittedly, my exposure to alternative interpretations may have occurred earlier, as I had engaged with some Bible-based materials in English since 2000. However, my English skills were still developing, and it wasn’t until I married my American wife in 2003 and moved to the United States in 2006 that I began to fully explore and appreciate these nuances.
What’s remarkable is how writing this book has sharpened my focus on such subjects. With every chapter, I am uncovering new layers of meaning in scriptures I thought I already understood. Solomon’s words now feel more profound than ever, guiding me not only in my personal reflections but also in sharing the insights I’ve gathered along my journey in the truth. Writing has become both a process of discovery and rediscovery, and I’m eager to share these findings with you, my reader. I need to step away from my personal story for a moment and take you on a journey of research to substantiate the truthfulness of my inner perception of this word. I invite you to follow along with my investigation to see if my vision aligns with reason and resonates with you. By exploring this topic together, we may uncover deeper insights and clarity.
Who are those ladies?
Seeking Deeper Understanding Through Various Interpretations
In my exploration of this passage, I also sought insight from the Watchtower (March 15, 2011), which discussed the phrase “a lady, even ladies.” The article suggested that Solomon might have been referring to notable women he encountered at his royal court. At the time, Solomon was still under Jehovah’s favor, so these women were distinct from the foreign wives who later led him into false worship. The Watchtower emphasized that while the Hebrew term for “lady” is unique and its exact meaning remains uncertain, it likely referred to women of high regard.
That said, who knows? Perhaps the phrase also carries a poetic hint toward the magic of music. However, I personally don't believe Solomon was referring to musical instruments. I don’t insist that my opinion is the only correct one. See if my following reasoning resonates with you. If it does, you may find the conclusions I’ve drawn from such reasoning to be beneficial.
First and foremost, Solomon frames this within the context of "great pleasure (the delights, the voluptuous delights, exquisite delights) of the sons of men (mankind)." This phrasing suggests to me that he was speaking of something universally accessible to all men—not merely a privilege reserved for someone in his elevated position, who had opportunities to meet notable women of high regard.
When I moved to America and learned more about the culture, I noticed that it is common for a man to refer to a woman he finds great pleasure in as "a lady," or even "my lady." This perspective resonates deeply with me. When I read Solomon’s words, I feel he was referring to such a "lady," and in his case, he had many "ladies" in whom he found great pleasure. A woman capable of satisfying the entire spectrum of emotional, physical, spiritual, and intellectual needs (and perhaps more) is undoubtedly a woman of high regard—a true lady. Such a lady would be highly desirable. While she might be admired by many, in her fullness, she can truly belong to only one master, as her wholesomeness would otherwise become incomplete or corrupted. The same principle applies to a man, or a lord. However, I would caution against interpretations that focus solely on sexual pleasure. As humans, we have far deeper needs that must be fulfilled beyond the physical. This is a universal truth for both men and women!
Since there is no unanimous opinion on the meaning of Solomon's phrase "lady, even ladies," we all have a degree of freedom to draw inspiration from a WORD itself. This is why I prefer translations that strive to remain as close to the original wording as possible, preserving the spirit of what Jehovah inspired. However, having personally experienced the challenges of interpreting one language into another, I understand the difficulties involved. Some expressions simply do not translate easily—especially when cultural differences obscure their literal meaning.
For example, consider how the phrase “give us our daily bread” might be translated into Chinese. Since bread is not a staple but rather a luxury for wealthier individuals in Chinese culture, a translator might feel compelled to reframe the meaning to fit local context. Such adaptations illustrate the delicate balance translators face in conveying both the literal and cultural nuances of a text. Recognizing this struggle helps me appreciate the effort behind various translations and encourages me to dig deeper to discern the essence of what Jehovah inspired, rather than becoming overly focused on linguistic hurdles.
Besides, interpretation of spiritual matters often depends on the guidance of the holy spirit. As Jesus said: "But the helper, the holy spirit, which the Father will send in my name, that one will teach you all things and bring back to your minds all the things I told you" (John 14:26). This assurance reminds us that understanding Jehovah's Word is not solely about intellectual effort but about being receptive to the guidance of the holy spirit. "For it is to us God has revealed them through his spirit, for the spirit searches into all things, even the deep things of God. For who among men knows the things of a man except the man’s spirit within him? So, too, no one has come to know the things of God except the spirit of God. Now we received, not the spirit of the world, but the spirit that is from God, so that we might know the things that have been kindly given us by God. These things we also speak, not with words taught by human wisdom, but with those taught by the spirit, as we explain spiritual matters with spiritual words. But a physical man does not accept the things of the spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot get to know them, because they are examined spiritually. However, the spiritual man examines all things, but he himself is not examined by any man. For “who has come to know the mind of Jehovah, so that he may instruct him?” But we do have the mind of Christ." - 1 Corithians 2:10-16
Cultural Context and Modern Christian Understanding
It’s clear that we face challenges in fully grasping the culture of the Israelites in Solomon’s day. The fact that wealthy men could have more than one wife and concubines can easily perplex modern Christians, particularly because they adhere to the standard of monogamy outlined for faithful followers of Christ. This standard is especially significant for the chosen ones who will be “purchased from the earth” and described as those who “did not defile themselves with women; in fact, they are virgins” (Revelation 14:4). Even though this description in Revelation is expressed symbolically within a symbolic book, it can still be difficult to reconcile such imagery with Solomon’s reality. For many, it feels inconsistent to imagine Solomon—at the height of his God-given wisdom—having multiple wives and concubines while writing the inspired words of Ecclesiastes.
However, understanding the context of Solomon’s time is crucial. The law given through Moses permitted polygamy, and such arrangements were culturally and legally accepted in ancient Israel. While these practices were allowed, they were not necessarily ideal. As Jesus later clarified, “from the beginning” Jehovah’s standard for marriage was the union of one man and one woman (Matthew 19:4-6). This, by the way, is another reason why Jesus said: "No man has ascended into heaven but the one who descended from heaven, the Son of man" (John 3:13). Jesus’ statement underscores the unique role he plays as the only one who has come from heaven and returned there, possessing firsthand knowledge of Jehovah’s purpose and heavenly realities. It also highlights the significant difference between Jesus and any human who came before him. None of them ascended to heaven.
It is also worth noting that Solomon’s downfall began when he married many foreign wives who led him into false worship (1 Kings 11:1-4). The distinction between these later relationships and those of his earlier years, when he was still under Jehovah’s favor, is essential for understanding his spiritual condition when writing Ecclesiastes.
This historical and cultural gap reminds us to carefully navigate such differences with humility and discernment, always seeking to understand Jehovah’s principles rather than judging the past through the lens of modern practice. Solomon’s inspired writings serve as a testament to how Jehovah can use individuals, even within the cultural and legal frameworks of their time, to convey timeless truths for our benefit today.
One reason Solomon was allowed to have such a large household of wives and concubines is that, first of all, he could afford to support them materially. At that time, this was likely a significant consideration for women. However, even from the women’s perspective, such marriages were often seen as desirable. The Bible reflects this reality in Isaiah 4:1: “Seven women will grab hold of one man in that day, saying: ‘We will eat our own bread and wear our own clothing; only let us be called by your name to take away our disgrace.’”
We also see how the daughters of Jerusalem did not understand why the Shulammite girl, in the Song of Solomon, rejected Solomon’s royal invitation. Yet there are higher reasons to reject such invitations, as the Shulammite girl illustrates: “If a man would offer all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly despised.” (Song of Solomon 8:7)
Beyond the cultural and practical aspects, there was a greater purpose. Jehovah preserved Solomon’s story in the Bible as a prophetic illustration of someone greater—Jesus, who referred to himself as “something more than Solomon.”
Everyone knows that Jesus upheld the highest standards from Jehovah regarding women. While he remained unmarried during his life on earth, he reached for a far higher form of relationship—with the congregation of his followers—one that surpasses even the exquisite delights experienced by the sons of men.
Consider how the apostle Paul describes this relationship: “For I am jealous over you with a godly jealousy, for I personally promised you in marriage to one husband, that I might present you as a chaste virgin to the Christ.” (2 Corinthians 11:2–4)
Paul also speaks of a sacred secret regarding Christ and the congregation: “In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cherishes it, just as the Christ does the congregation, because we are members of his body. ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother, and he will stick to his wife, and the two will be one flesh.’ This sacred secret is great. Now I am speaking about Christ and the congregation. Nevertheless, each one of you must love his wife as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband.” (Ephesians 5:28–33)
This is the kind of bride Christ is looking for: “I also saw the holy city, New Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God and prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.” (Revelation 21:2)
This sheds prophetic light on Solomon’s courtyard, filled with exquisite delight—a delight he longed for but ultimately did not find. As he reflects in Ecclesiastes: “‘See, this is what I found,’ says the congregator. ‘I investigated one thing after another to reach my conclusion, but what I continually sought, I have not found. One man out of a thousand I found, but a woman among them I have not found. This alone I have found: The true God made mankind upright, but they have sought out many schemes.’” (Ecclesiastes 7:27–29)
Reasons Jehovah Tolerated Polygamy
Jehovah's tolerance of polygamy, as recorded in the Scriptures, reveals His wisdom and compassion in addressing human needs and the unique circumstances of different eras. These passages highlight how Jehovah’s foreknowledge and patience allowed for deviations from His standards, tolerating imperfection while guiding humanity toward something everlasting and worthy of His purpose. Here are some key considerations:
To Satisfy a Woman's Natural Desires and Needs
Women, like men, have emotional and physical desires, including the longing to be loved by a man and to have children. Jehovah acknowledged this inherent longing when He told Eve: “I will greatly increase the pain of your pregnancy; in pain you will give birth to children, and your longing will be for your husband, and he will dominate you” (Genesis 3:16).
In Timothy’s writings, it is noted that women find safety and fulfillment through childbearing, which was often viewed as a blessing and a means of security: “She will be kept safe through childbearing” (1 Timothy 2:15).
As a Response to Difficult Circumstances
There were times in Israel’s history when Jehovah allowed deviations from His original standard to address dire conditions. For example, during periods of punishment and calamity, the balance between men and women could be so disrupted that polygamy became a practical solution. Isaiah describes a scenario where women were desperate to avoid social disgrace and willingly sought to share one man: “Seven women will grab hold of one man in that day, saying: ‘We will eat our own bread and wear our own clothing; only let us be called by your name to take away our disgrace’” (Isaiah 4:1).
Jehovah’s Patience and Long-Term View
Jehovah has always been patient with human shortcomings, allowing certain practices within specific conditions to serve a greater purpose. He recognized humanity’s limitations and worked within them, aiming for eventual restoration. The apostle Paul noted: “He decreed the appointed times and the set limits of where men would dwell” (Acts 17:26).
Jehovah tolerated deviations like polygamy not because they aligned with His ultimate standards but because they could lead to something more meaningful and redemptive, contributing to His grand purpose.
A Temporary Allowance Until Restoration
Jehovah’s ultimate goal has always been to restore humanity to His original design and standards. Practices like polygamy were temporary allowances, held in check until the time for restoration arrived: “Heaven must hold this one within itself until the times of restoration of all things” (Acts 3:21). "True, God has overlooked the times of such ignorance; but now he is declaring to all people everywhere that they should repent." - Acts 17:30
Below, I have included Scriptures that I quoted from in a wider context for your personal analysis:
1 Timothy 2:8-15 So I desire that in every place the men carry on prayer, lifting up loyal hands, without anger and debates.9 Likewise, the women should adorn themselves in appropriate dress, with modesty and soundness of mind, not with styles of hair braiding and gold or pearls or very expensive clothing,10 but in the way that is proper for women professing devotion to God, namely, through good works.11 Let a woman learn in silence with full submissiveness.12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man, but she is to remain silent.13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve.14 Also, Adam was not deceived, but the woman was thoroughly deceived and became a transgressor.15 However, she will be kept safe through childbearing, provided she continues in faith and love and holiness along with soundness of mind.
Isaiah 3 For look! the true Lord, Jehovah of armies, Is removing from Jerusalem and Judah every kind of support and supply, All support of bread and water,2 Mighty man and warrior, Judge and prophet, diviner and elder,3 Chief of 50, dignitary, and adviser, The expert magician and the skilled charmer.4 I will make boys their princes, And the unstable will rule over them.5 The people will oppress one another, Each one his fellow man. The boy will assault the old man, And the lightly esteemed one will defy the respected one.6 Each one will take hold of his brother in his father’s house and say: “You have a cloak—you be our commander. Take charge of this overthrown pile of ruins.”7 But he will protest in that day: “I will not be your wound dresser; I have no food or clothing in my house. Do not make me commander over the people.”8 For Jerusalem has stumbled, And Judah has fallen, Because in word and deed they are against Jehovah; They behave defiantly in his glorious presence.9 The expression of their faces testifies against them, And they proclaim their sin like Sodʹom; They do not try to hide it. Woe to them, for they are bringing disaster on themselves!10 Tell the righteous that it will go well for them; They will be rewarded for what they do.11 Woe to the wicked one! Disaster will befall him, For what his hands have done will be done to him!12 As for my people, their taskmasters are abusive, And women rule over them. My people, your leaders are causing you to wander, And they confuse the direction of your paths.13 Jehovah is taking his position to accuse; He is standing up to pass sentence on peoples.14 Jehovah will enter into judgment with the elders and princes of his people. “You have burned down the vineyard, And what you have stolen from the poor is in your houses.15 How dare you crush my people And grind the faces of the poor in the dirt?” declares the Sovereign Lord, Jehovah of armies.16 Jehovah says: “Because the daughters of Zion are haughty, Walking with their heads high, Flirting with their eyes, skipping along, Making a tinkling sound with their anklets,17 Jehovah will also strike the head of the daughters of Zion with scabs, And Jehovah will make their forehead bare.18 In that day Jehovah will take away the beauty of their bangles, The headbands and the crescent-shaped ornaments,19 The earrings, the bracelets, and the veils,20 The headdresses, the ankle chains, and the breastbands, The perfume receptacles and the charms,21 The finger rings and the nose rings,22 The ceremonial robes, the overtunics, the cloaks, and the purses,23 The hand mirrors and the linen garments, The turbans and the veils.24 Instead of balsam oil, there will be a rotten smell; Instead of a belt, a rope; Instead of a beautiful hairstyle, baldness; Instead of a rich garment, a garment of sackcloth; And a brand mark instead of beauty.25 By the sword your men will fall, And your mighty men in battle.26 Her entrances will mourn and grieve, And she will sit on the ground desolate.” Isaiah 4:1 And seven women will grab hold of one man in that day, saying: “We will eat our own bread And wear our own clothing; Only let us be called by your name To take away our disgrace.”
Jehovah's Original Purpose for Marriage: A Union Designed for Permanence
Briefly stated, Jesus, as God's representative on earth, clarified that in the beginning, when Adam and Eve were created perfect, Jehovah intended marriage to be a lifelong union. He emphasized: “They are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has yoked together, let no man put apart.” (Matthew 19:6). When the Pharisees challenged him with the question of divorce, citing Jehovah’s arrangement under Moses, they asked: “Why, then, did Moses direct giving a certificate of dismissal and divorcing her?” (Matthew 19:7). Jesus responded, explaining that this allowance was a concession due to the imperfect, hard-hearted nature of the Israelites at the time: “Out of regard for your hard-heartedness, Moses made the concession to you of divorcing your wives, but that has not been the case from the beginning.” (Matthew 19:8). This conversation highlighted Jehovah’s original standard for marriage as a permanent union, reflecting the perfection and harmony of His creation.
You can read the full text of that conversation in the collapsible text below. I believe it’s worth noting the alternative Jesus mentioned to his followers. This alternative opens up an additional discussion, which you can explore further in this chapter, as well as in the chapters "My Solomon's Journey," "My Lady," and "Christ's Bride." These chapters explore how my personal life experiences have shaped my understanding of Solomon's expression, "lady, even ladies."
Matthew 19:3-12 And Pharisees came to him intent on testing him, and they asked: “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife on every sort of grounds?”4 In reply he said: “Have you not read that the one who created them from the beginning made them male and female5 and said: ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and will stick to his wife, and the two will be one flesh’?6 So that they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has yoked together, let no man put apart.”7 They said to him: “Why, then, did Moses direct giving a certificate of dismissal and divorcing her?”8 He said to them: “Out of regard for your hard-heartedness, Moses made the concession to you of divorcing your wives, but that has not been the case from the beginning.9 I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the grounds of sexual immorality, and marries another commits adultery.”10 The disciples said to him: “If that is the situation of a man with his wife, it is not advisable to marry.”11 He said to them: “Not all men make room for the saying, but only those who have the gift.12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs on account of the Kingdom of the heavens. Let the one who can make room for it make room for it.”
Is it advisable to marry?
The question of whether it is advisable to marry depends on individual circumstances, capabilities, and spiritual goals. As Jesus noted in Matthew 19:11-12, the choice is not for everyone: “Not all men make room for the saying, but only those who have the gift.” Similarly, the apostle Paul echoed this thought in his counsel to the Corinthians, offering a balanced perspective: "Now concerning the things about which you wrote: it is better for a man not to touch a woman; but because of the prevalence of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife and each woman her own husband. Let the husband give to his wife her due, and let the wife also do likewise to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but her husband does; likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but his wife does. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent for an appointed time, so that you may devote time to prayer and may come together again, in order that Satan may not keep tempting you for your lack of self-control. However, I say this by way of concession, not as a command. But I wish all men were as I am. Nevertheless, each one has his own gift from God, one in this way, another in that way. Now I say to those who are unmarried and to the widows that it is better for them if they remain as I am. But if they do not have self-control, let them marry, for it is better to marry than to be inflamed with passion" (1 Corinthians 7:1-9).
At the end of this chapter, you might have a clearer idea of what your current choice should be. I will share my personal journey of staying single until I decided to marry in the chapters "My Solomon's Journey" and "My Lady." My experiences and reflections may help you evaluate your own path in light of scriptural principles.
"I am distressed over you, my brother Jonʹa·than; You were very dear to me. More wonderful was your love to me than the love of women." - 2 Samuel 1:26
In the bonds of spiritual brotherhood lies a love more profound than earthly pleasures, surpassing even the delights found in the embrace of a cherished lady. This love, marked by the Greek word philia, speaks of affection unmarred by physical desire—an enduring connection of heart and purpose. David’s lament for Jonathan echoes this sacred bond: “More wonderful was your love to me than the love of women.” Such unity springs from shared faith, mutual goals, and a deep understanding that transcends mere kinship. Christ himself cherished such affection, as seen in his relationship with the disciple for whom he had special fondness, John.
This love is not for all; it is a gift reserved for those whose hearts align with spiritual purpose, whose natures reflect divine unity. As David sang, “How good and how pleasant it is for brothers to dwell together in unity!” This harmony, unattainable through blood alone, flows from a shared calling—a brotherhood that binds companions in the highest of pursuits, reflecting the love of the heavens themselves.
Jesus’ Higher Standard of Relationships
Solomon’s experiences and reflections likely contributed to the development of a higher spiritual understanding of relationships in Jesus’ teachings. Jesus sought bonds that transcended physical and romantic love, focusing instead on spiritual unity and mutual dedication to God. When questioned about marriage in the resurrection, Jesus responded: “In the resurrection neither do men marry nor are women given in marriage, but they are as angels in heaven.” (Matthew 22:30). This radical shift emphasizes relationships rooted in spiritual qualities over earthly ties. Jesus’ own life demonstrated this, as he surrounded himself with individuals—both men and women—who shared his dedication to Jehovah.
The Unique Bond of Adam and Eve
Adam’s relationship with Eve provides the foundational example of such a bond. When Jehovah created Eve, Adam expressed his joy in deeply poetic terms: "This is at last bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. This one will be called woman, because from man she was taken." (Genesis 2:23) This expression reflects the profound excitement Adam felt upon receiving a partner who was not only his equal but also specifically designed by Jehovah as his "helper" and "complement" (Genesis 2:18). Adam had experienced being utterly alone, surrounded by animals but with no one "according to his kind" to share his thoughts, feelings, or companionship. Eve’s creation brought an end to this solitude, and their relationship exemplified the original design for human intimacy—a unique, exclusive partnership.
Two Important Notes:
1. Adam Was Not Completely Alone.
While Adam lacked a physical companion, he was not entirely alone. As Jehovah’s son, he had personal communication with his Creator, whether directly or through Jehovah’s spiritual messengers—angels. Among these messengers, the very first creation of Jehovah, known as the Word or His Spokesman, likely delivered many of these messages.
Represented as the personification of wisdom in Proverbs 8, this first creation—Jehovah’s thoughts expressed in wise words—was a distinct entity with its own perception and ability to feel and act independently. As Jehovah’s first creation, this divine being was intimately involved in creating the material universe and humankind. Proverbs 8:22-31 beautifully expresses this creation’s delight: "Then I was beside Him as a master worker. I was the one He was especially fond of day by day; I rejoiced before Him all the time, rejoicing over His habitable earth, and I was especially fond of the sons of men."
The Word rejoiced at Adam’s creation and anticipated the joy of witnessing Adam’s descendants—free agents of life with the capacity to reflect their Creator’s image. This first creation’s joy in observing mankind underscores the unique connection between the spiritual and physical realms. (For those interested, the full text of Proverbs 8 is available in the expandable section below.)
2. Jehovah’s Joy in Reflection
Though Jehovah is entirely self-sufficient, the creation of beings in His image—both spiritual and physical—brought Him immense joy. While the spiritual realm provided companionship, the creation of humankind introduced a new dimension of joy for Jehovah. Earthly creatures capable of reflecting His attributes in tangible ways became a source of delight for their Creator.
This parallel can resonate with us as humans. While we live in the physical realm, finding association with the spiritual realm adds depth and meaning to our existence. Jehovah’s joy in His earthly creation mirrors our joy in discovering spiritual connections that enrich our lives.
Digging Deeper: For a more comprehensive understanding of this first creation’s role and joy in Jehovah’s works, see the full passage in Proverbs, Chapter 8:
Proverbs 8 Is not wisdom calling out? Is not discernment raising its voice? 2 On the heights along the road, It takes its position at the crossroads. 3 Next to the gates leading into the city, At the entrances of the doorways, It keeps crying out loudly: 4 “To you, O people, I am calling; I raise my voice to everyone. 5 You inexperienced ones, learn shrewdness; You stupid ones, acquire an understanding heart. 6 Listen, for what I say is important, My lips speak what is right; 7 For my mouth softly utters truth, And my lips detest what is wicked. 8 All the sayings of my mouth are righteous. None of them are twisted or crooked. 9 They are all straightforward to the discerning And right to those who have found knowledge. 10 Take my discipline instead of silver, And knowledge rather than the finest gold, 11 For wisdom is better than corals; All other desirable things cannot compare to it. 12 I, wisdom, dwell together with shrewdness; I have found knowledge and thinking ability. 13 The fear of Jehovah means the hating of bad. I hate self-exaltation and pride and the evil way and perverse speech. 14 I possess good advice and practical wisdom; Understanding and power are mine. 15 By me kings keep reigning, And high officials decree righteousness. 16 By me princes keep ruling, And nobles judge in righteousness. 17 I love those loving me, And those seeking me will find me. 18 Riches and glory are with me, Lasting wealth and righteousness. 19 My fruitage is better than gold, even refined gold, And what I produce is better than the finest silver. 20 I walk in the path of righteousness, In the middle of the pathways of justice; 21 I give a rich inheritance to those who love me, And I fill up their storehouses. 22 Jehovah produced me as the beginning of his way, The earliest of his achievements of long ago. 23 From ancient times I was installed, From the start, from times earlier than the earth. 24 When there were no deep waters, I was brought forth, When there were no springs overflowing with water. 25 Before the mountains were set in place, Before the hills, I was brought forth, 26 When he had not yet made the earth and its fields Or the first clods of earth’s soil. 27 When he prepared the heavens, I was there; When he marked out the horizon on the surface of the waters, 28 When he established the clouds above, When he founded the fountains of the deep, 29 When he set a decree for the sea That its waters should not pass beyond his order, When he established the foundations of the earth, 30 Then I was beside him as a master worker. I was the one he was especially fond of day by day; I rejoiced before him all the time; 31 I rejoiced over his habitable earth, And I was especially fond of the sons of men. 32 And now, my sons, listen to me; Yes, happy are those who keep my ways. 33 Listen to discipline and become wise, And never neglect it. 34 Happy is the man who listens to me By coming early to my doors day by day, By waiting next to my doorposts; 35 For the one finding me will find life, And he receives approval from Jehovah. 36 But the one who ignores me harms himself, And those who hate me love death.”
Iron Sharpens Iron
This wise expression, found in Solomon’s Proverbs 27:17—"As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens his friend" (Lit., “the face of his friend”)—illustrates the profound impact one person can have on another. Friends or enemies, the people around us shape who we are. From school, family, religion, work place, village we grow in, homeland, political systems, and governments—the systems of things that we are part of — influence the kind of person we become.
Jehovah God, our Creator, is the ultimate cause of all things visible and invisible. Interestingly, the root of His name, according to Hebrew, Je·hoʹvah (the causative form of the imperfect Hebrew verb ha·wahʹ meaning "become"), signifies “He Causes to Become.” With this in mind, let us consider Jehovah’s sacred arrangement for marriage, where two individuals become one flesh.
The Intimacy of Marriage
Marriage exposes two people to each other in a way that is unparalleled—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. This intimacy is symbolized by the "nakedness" mentioned in Genesis: "That is why a man will leave his father and his mother and he will stick to his wife, and they will become one flesh. And both of them continued to be naked, the man and his wife; yet they were not ashamed." - Genises 2:24.25. Another scripture amplifies this idea of total exposure: "And there is not a creation that is hidden from his sight, but all things are naked and openly exposed to the eyes of the one to whom we must give an account" (Hebrews 4:13). Together, these scriptures underscore the profound level of intimacy and trust that exists in marriage. This is why marriage is a holy arrangement and why the inspired writings urge couples to remain committed to this bond, even through challenges.
A Parallel to Coral Formation
Since a capable wife’s value is described as being far more precious than coral (Proverbs 31:10), let us consider how coral itself is formed. Coral grows through a slow and intricate natural process, taking years—sometimes centuries—to develop into the vibrant reefs we admire today. It forms in a hidden and closed environment, emerging gradually under specific conditions, much like a hidden treasure shaped over time. (See the collapsible text below for a detailed explanation of literal coral formation.) This process mirrors the development of human character and relationships, especially within the framework of marriage. Just as coral grows unseen under pressure, the qualities that make a marriage strong—such as love, patience, forgiveness, and commitment—are often cultivated in quiet, unnoticed moments. These qualities may not be immediately visible but are revealed over time, shaped by trials, persistence, and unseen influences.
A Holy Arrangement
Marriage is, therefore, like the formation of coral—a holy and untouchable arrangement. It is a sphere where precious qualities are forged, nurtured, and revealed, a process that demands respect and perseverance. The analogy of coral’s hidden growth serves as a powerful reminder that beauty, strength, and resilience often develop in the quiet and challenging environments of life, only to emerge as masterpieces when the time is right. This is why the marital arrangement is sacred and must remain untouched by human interference. It is a reflection of Jehovah’s wisdom and a reminder of the transformative power of commitment and love.
The Natural Formation of Coral: A Hidden Process of Growth and Transformation Foundation by Coral Polyps: Coral begins with tiny organisms called coral polyps, which are marine animals related to jellyfish. These polyps attach themselves to a hard surface, such as a rock or the skeleton of older coral, in warm, shallow, and nutrient-rich ocean waters. Secretion of Calcium Carbonate: To protect themselves, polyps secrete calcium carbonate, which hardens to form a protective exoskeleton. Over time, as new generations of polyps build upon the skeletons of their predecessors, the coral structure expands. Symbiotic Relationship with Algae: Coral polyps maintain a delicate partnership with microscopic algae called zooxanthellae, which live within their tissues. These algae provide nutrients to the polyps through photosynthesis while benefiting from the shelter and waste products the coral offers. Slow and Steady Growth: Coral grows extremely slowly—often just a few millimeters to a few centimeters per year. This growth happens in a closed environment beneath the ocean's surface, largely unnoticed by human eyes. Layers build upon layers under the constant interplay of pressure, currents, and environmental factors. Hidden Development Under Pressure: The growth of coral occurs under pressure—literal and figurative. Ocean currents, predators, and other natural forces challenge the coral's resilience, while changes in temperature, acidity, or pollution threaten its survival. Despite these pressures, coral continues to grow, unseen, until it rises to prominence or is revealed through natural shifts or human discovery. Emerging as a Masterpiece: Over decades or centuries, coral reefs form, creating a spectacular underwater ecosystem teeming with life. Yet, this beauty remains hidden until conditions expose it, such as when coral is harvested, studied, or naturally uncovered in shallow waters.
Where Do "Such Corals" Grow?
When Scripture speaks of how rare it is to find a capable wife, as in Proverbs 31:10—"Her value is far more than that of corals"—we must acknowledge the environments where such precious qualities are cultivated. Let’s explore two key scenarios where these “corals” are shaped.
1. Within the Family Structure. Parents play a vital role in raising daughters to become individuals of such worth. The family is the primary environment where character is nurtured and where the seeds of wisdom, kindness, and spiritual depth are planted. For this reason, the apostle Paul encouraged Christian families to remain intact, even when one partner is of a different faith: "But to the others I say, yes, I, not the Lord: If any brother has an unbelieving wife and she is agreeable to staying with him, let him not leave her; and if a woman has an unbelieving husband and he is agreeable to staying with her, let her not leave her husband. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified in relation to his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in relation to the brother; otherwise, your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. But if the unbelieving one chooses to depart, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not bound under such circumstances, but God has called you to peace. For wife, how do you know whether you will save your husband? Or, husband, how do you know whether you will save your wife?” (1 Corinthians 7:12-16). Paul’s admonition underscores the importance of maintaining family unity for the sake of the children, even in challenging circumstances. In such a setting, a young girl can grow into a “coral” of immense value, shaped by the love, guidance, and stability of her parents. This initial holy arrangement, where two people are one flesh, provides the foundation for developing such precious qualities. If, however, the unbelieving partner chooses to leave, Jehovah steps in. He becomes the Father of the orphan and Protector of the widow (Psalm 68:5). Even in broken family situations, Jehovah ensures that opportunities for growth and development remain available.
2. After the Trials of a Previous Marriage. Another setting where such “corals” can grow is in the lives of individuals who have experienced previous marriages and are now free to remarry. Life’s challenges often refine a person, and remarriage can be an opportunity to bring those lessons into a new relationship. I recall visiting a Russian congregation in San Antonio, Texas, in 2022, where we met a couple who exemplified this. The husband, in his 70s, and his wife, slightly younger, had both lost their previous spouses. With warmth and humor, they referred to their past marriages as "training marriages." Their present union reflected a depth of understanding and mutual respect, shaped by the experiences of their earlier lives. The Bible provides similar examples. David’s marriages to Abigail and Bathsheba illustrate how remarkable qualities can emerge from life’s trials. Abigail, in particular, is a shining example. The Bible describes her as “intelligent and beautiful in form” (1 Samuel 25:3). Despite being married to a harsh and foolish man, Abigail developed qualities of wisdom, diplomacy, and courage. Her story reveals how even challenging circumstances can mold someone into a "coral" worth possessing.
Whether nurtured in the protective environment of a family or refined through the challenges of life, these “corals” are rare treasures. They are shaped by time, trials, and divine guidance. Such individuals, like the capable wife described in Proverbs, bring immeasurable value to their families and relationships, demonstrating the power of Jehovah’s arrangement for growth and transformation.
Who are those ladies?
Solomon would undoubtedly have been deeply familiar with the stories of his father, King David. David was not only a legendary figure and a national symbol in Israel but also a man whose life was well-documented and revered. His songs were sung by the Israelites for centuries, many of them preserved in the Holy Scriptures as Psalms. These writings, filled with heartfelt devotion and inspired wisdom, became an integral part of Israel’s spiritual heritage.
Even if some aspects of David’s life may have been embellished over time by oral tradition, the prophets Nathan and Gad, under Jehovah’s direction, carefully recorded the true account of his life in the Scriptures. This ensured that the story of David’s triumphs, failures, heartfelt repentance, and devotion to Jehovah was preserved with accuracy for future generations, including Solomon.
David's Ladies. The Power of a Woman's Inspiration
Michal
The Bible indeed highlights the relationships David had with several women, and among them, Michal stands out not only for her status as the daughter of King Saul but also for the unique dynamics of her relationship with David. Her story provides valuable insights into the power of love, ambition, and loyalty. Michal, being the daughter of Israel’s first anointed king, was undoubtedly a woman of high regard, admired for her connection to the royal court. David, at that time, was a rising figure in Israel, known for his courage in defeating Goliath, his close friendship with Jonathan, and his musical and poetic talents, which made him beloved by many. His anointing by the prophet Samuel as the future king of Israel would have also been a widely known and respected event, given Samuel's prominence.
Michal's love for David was genuine, as the Bible states explicitly that she loved him (1 Samuel 18:20). This love, however, placed David in a dangerous position, as Saul saw it as an opportunity to eliminate him. The condition for marrying Michal was deliberately perilous: Saul demanded the foreskins of 100 Philistines, hoping David would die in the attempt. However, David, driven perhaps not only by his ambition and loyalty to Jehovah but also by Michal’s affection, went above and beyond, presenting Saul with 200 Philistine foreskins and securing Michal as his wife (1 Samuel 18:27).
Michal’s role in this episode underscores how a woman’s love and regard can inspire extraordinary actions. David's willingness to risk his life to earn her as his wife demonstrates the motivational power of such a relationship. To David, Michal was not just a political connection; she was someone worth fighting for, someone he viewed as a "lady."
1 Samuel 18:20-30 Now Saul’s daughter Miʹchal was in love with David, and it was reported to Saul, and this pleased him.21 So Saul said: “I will give her to him to serve as a snare to him, so that the hand of the Phi·lisʹtines may come upon him.” Saul then said to David a second time: “You will form a marriage alliance with me today.”22 Further, Saul ordered his servants: “Speak to David secretly and say, ‘Look! The king is pleased with you, and all his servants are fond of you. So now form a marriage alliance with the king.’”23 When Saul’s servants told David these things, David said: “Is it a trivial matter to you to form a marriage alliance with the king when I am a man poor and lightly esteemed?”24 Then Saul’s servants reported to him: “These are the words that David spoke.”25 At that Saul said: “This is what you should say to David, ‘The king does not want any bride price except 100 foreskins of the Phi·lisʹtines, to take revenge on the enemies of the king.’” For Saul was scheming to have David fall by the hand of the Phi·lisʹtines.26 So his servants reported these words to David, and it was pleasing to David to form a marriage alliance with the king. Before the allotted time,27 David went with his men and struck down 200 Phi·lisʹtine men, and David brought the full number of their foreskins to the king, to form a marriage alliance with the king. Therefore, Saul gave him his daughter Miʹchal as a wife.28 Saul realized that Jehovah was with David and that his daughter Miʹchal loved him.29 This made Saul even more afraid of David, and Saul became an enemy of David for the rest of his life.30 The princes of the Phi·lisʹtines would go out to battle, but as often as they went out, David was more successful than all the servants of Saul; and his name was highly esteemed.
Unfortunately, she experienced a life marked by tragedy, political maneuvering, and personal strife. Her story reflects the complexities of loyalty, respect, and the consequences of strained relationships within a family and marriage. She endured the pain of being caught in the political conflict between her father, King Saul, and her husband, David. Despite her initial love and loyalty to David, demonstrated when she helped him escape from Saul's attempts to kill him, Michal's life took a tragic turn when Saul gave her in marriage to another man, Palti, even though she was already married to David. This separation must have caused deep emotional conflict. When David ascended to the throne, he demanded Michal's return, asserting his claim to her as his wife. Though her second husband, Palti, mourned the loss, Michal returned to David, but their relationship appears to have been permanently fractured.
Michal's ultimate downfall came during an event that highlighted her inability to share or support David's devotion to Jehovah. When David brought the ark of the covenant to Jerusalem, he expressed his zeal for Jehovah through exuberant dancing and celebration. Watching from a window, Michal despised him in her heart, viewing his actions as undignified. When she sarcastically criticized him, David rebuked her for failing to appreciate his zeal for Jehovah. This interaction led David to evidently distance himself from her, withholding sexual relations, which left her childless until her death (2 Samuel 6:14-23). Michal's story serves as a reminder of the importance of respect, shared values, and mutual understanding in a relationship. Her inability to align herself with David's spiritual priorities ultimately isolated her, leaving her life as a cautionary tale about the consequences of misplaced priorities and unresolved conflicts. If marital partners remember the level of "nakedness" they have exposed to each other—representing their vulnerabilities, dignity, and trust—and make a concerted effort to protect and honor one another, they will maintain their status as “Ladies” and “Lords” in each other’s eyes. This mutual respect forms the cornerstone of a lasting and meaningful partnership.
Abigail
Another wife of David who earned his heart was Abigail, described in the Bible as “good in discretion and beautiful in form.” Initially, she was married to a wealthy but harsh man named Nabal. After Nabal’s untimely death—an event Abigail herself played a key role in by wisely appeasing David and preventing unnecessary bloodshed—David sent her a marriage proposal.
While the account doesn’t emphasize romantic details, it is evident that Abigail’s wisdom and character made her an exceptional woman. Her prudence and grace in a difficult situation not only saved her household but also caught David’s admiration. In this regard, she embodied the qualities of a true lady, someone “more precious than corals” (Proverbs 31:10). Abigail’s story highlights the value of discretion and intelligence, qualities that earned her a lasting place in David’s life and the biblical narrative.
(For a deeper look into Abigail’s life and her exceptional qualities, refer to the collapsible text below.)
1 Samuel 25:2-42 Now there was a man in Maʹon whose work was in Carʹmel. The man was very wealthy; he had 3,000 sheep and 1,000 goats, and he was then shearing his sheep at Carʹmel.3 The man’s name was Naʹbal, and his wife’s name was Abʹi·gail. The wife was discerning and beautiful, but the husband, a Caʹleb·ite, was harsh, and he behaved badly.4 David heard in the wilderness that Naʹbal was shearing his sheep.5 So David sent ten young men to him, and David told the young men: “Go up to Carʹmel, and when you come to Naʹbal, ask him in my name about his welfare.6 Then say, ‘May you live long and may you be well and may your household be well and may all that you have be well.7 Now I hear that you are doing your shearing. When your shepherds were with us, we did not harm them, and they found nothing missing the whole time they were in Carʹmel.8 Ask your young men, and they will tell you. May my young men find favor in your eyes, because we have come at a joyous time. Please give to your servants and to your son David whatever you can spare.’”9 So David’s young men went and told all of this to Naʹbal in David’s name. When they finished,10 Naʹbal answered David’s servants: “Who is David, and who is the son of Jesʹse? Nowadays many servants are breaking away from their masters.11 Do I have to take my bread and my water and the meat that I butchered for my shearers and give it to men who come from who knows where?”12 At that David’s young men returned and reported all these words to him.13 David immediately said to his men: “Everyone strap on your sword!” So they all strapped on their swords, and David also strapped on his own sword, and about 400 men went up with David, while 200 men stayed with the baggage.14 Meanwhile, one of the servants reported to Abʹi·gail, Naʹbal’s wife: “Look! David sent messengers from the wilderness to wish our master well, but he screamed insults at them.15 Those men were very good to us. They never harmed us, and we did not miss a single thing the whole time we were together with them in the fields.16 They were like a protective wall around us, both by night and by day, the whole time we were with them shepherding the flock.17 Now decide what you are going to do, for disaster has been determined against our master and against all his house, and he is such a worthless man that no one can speak to him.”18 So Abʹi·gail quickly took 200 loaves of bread, two large jars of wine, five dressed sheep, five seah measures of roasted grain, 100 cakes of raisins, and 200 cakes of pressed figs and put all of it on the donkeys.19 Then she said to her servants: “Go on ahead of me; I will follow you.” But she said nothing to her husband Naʹbal.20 While she was riding on the donkey and going down under cover of the mountain, just then David and his men were coming down toward her, and she met them.21 Now David had been saying: “It was for nothing that I guarded everything that belongs to this fellow in the wilderness. Not a single thing belonging to him went missing, and yet he repays me evil for good.22 May God do the same and more to the enemies of David if I allow a single male of his to survive until the morning.”23 When Abʹi·gail caught sight of David, she hurried down off the donkey and threw herself facedown before David, bowing to the ground.24 She then fell at his feet and said: “My lord, let the blame be on me; let your servant girl speak to you, and listen to the words of your servant girl.25 Please, do not let my lord pay attention to this worthless Naʹbal, for he is just like his name. Naʹbal is his name, and senselessness is with him. But I, your servant girl, did not see my lord’s young men whom you sent.26 And now, my lord, as surely as Jehovah is living and as you are living, it is Jehovah who has held you back from incurring bloodguilt and from taking revenge with your own hand. May your enemies and those seeking injury to my lord become like Naʹbal.27 Now let this gift that your servant girl has brought to my lord be given to the young men who are following my lord.28 Pardon, please, the transgression of your servant girl, for Jehovah will without fail make for my lord a lasting house, because my lord is fighting the wars of Jehovah, and no evil has been found in you all your days.29 When someone rises up to pursue you and seeks your life, the life of my lord will be wrapped securely in the bag of life with Jehovah your God, but the lives of your enemies he will hurl away like stones from a sling.30 And when Jehovah has done for my lord all the good things he has promised and he appoints you as leader over Israel,31 you will have no remorse or regret in your heart for shedding blood without cause and for letting the hand of my lord take revenge. When Jehovah confers good upon my lord, remember your servant girl.”32 At this David said to Abʹi·gail: “Praise Jehovah the God of Israel, who sent you this day to meet me!33 And blessed be your good sense! May you be blessed for restraining me this day from incurring bloodguilt and from taking revenge with my own hands.34 Otherwise, as surely as Jehovah the God of Israel who held me back from harming you is living, if you had not come quickly to meet me, by morning there would not have remained a single male belonging to Naʹbal.”35 With that David accepted from her what she had brought him and said to her: “Go up in peace to your house. See, I have listened to you, and I will grant your request.”36 Abʹi·gail later went back to Naʹbal, who was feasting like a king in his house, and Naʹbal was in a good mood and was as drunk as could be. She did not tell him a single thing until the morning light.37 In the morning, when Naʹbal was sober, his wife told him these things. And his heart became like a dead man’s, and he lay paralyzed like a stone.38 About ten days later, Jehovah struck Naʹbal, and he died.39 When David heard that Naʹbal had died, he said: “Praise Jehovah, who has pleaded my case of reproach from Naʹbal and has kept his servant from doing anything bad, and Jehovah has brought the badness of Naʹbal back on his own head!” Then David sent word to propose to Abʹi·gail to take her as his wife.40 So David’s servants came to Abʹi·gail at Carʹmel and said to her: “David has sent us to you to take you as his wife.”41 She immediately rose up and bowed with her face to the ground and said: “Here is your slave as a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my lord.”42 Then Abʹi·gail quickly rose up and rode on her donkey with five of her female servants walking behind her; she accompanied the messengers of David and became his wife.
Bath-sheba
The third woman of high regard in David’s life was Bath-sheba, whose name means “Daughter of Plenty” or possibly “Daughter [Born on] the Seventh [Day].” She was the daughter of Eliam (also called Ammiel in 1 Chronicles 3:5) and possibly the granddaughter of Ahithophel, David’s close adviser. Bath-sheba was initially the wife of Uriah the Hittite, one of David’s mighty men, before she became David’s wife in one of the most controversial episodes of his life (2 Samuel 11:3; 23:39).
One spring day, while bathing in her home, Bath-sheba caught the attention of David, who was on the rooftop of his palace. Described as “very good in appearance,” she became the object of David’s passion. Learning that her husband was away at war, David summoned her to his palace, leading to an affair that resulted in her pregnancy. David’s subsequent actions to cover up the situation, including orchestrating Uriah’s death, marred his reputation and drew Jehovah’s rebuke through the prophet Nathan.
The possible connection between Bath-sheba and Ahithophel adds another layer to her story. Ahithophel, a native of Giloh, was not just a trusted counselor but a man whose advice was esteemed as if it were the word of Jehovah Himself (2 Samuel 16:23). If Bath-sheba was indeed his granddaughter, it would explain much about her proximity to the palace and her exceptional qualities. She likely inherited Ahithophel’s wisdom and discernment, qualities that became evident during her time as queen and in raising Solomon, who would become renowned for his unparalleled wisdom. David’s betrayal of Uriah may also shed light on Ahithophel’s eventual betrayal of David during Absalom’s rebellion. The emotional and familial connections involved—Bath-sheba’s possible lineage and David’s close relationship with Ahithophel—make this episode even more complex.
Despite the circumstances of their union, Bath-sheba proved to be a woman of extraordinary caliber. She secured Solomon’s place as David’s successor, a decision that shaped Israel’s history. Her strength, intelligence, and poise, evident in her later life, suggest that she was much more than a beautiful woman; she was a true lady in every sense of the word, with qualities that earned her respect and a place of honor in the biblical narrative.
In the collapsible section below, explore the lessons that David, Bathsheba, and Solomon derived from this pivotal life experience:
Proverbs 6: 20-35 Observe, my son, the commandment of your father, And do not forsake the instruction of your mother.21 Always bind them around your heart; Tie them about your neck.22 When you walk about, it will lead you; When you lie down, it will stand guard over you; And when you awaken, it will speak to you.23 For the commandment is a lamp, And the law is a light, And the reproofs of discipline are the way to life.24 They will guard you against the bad woman, Against the seductive tongue of the immoral woman.25 Do not desire her beauty in your heart Or allow her to captivate you with her alluring eyes,26 For because of a prostitute, a man is reduced to a loaf of bread, But the wife of another man preys on a precious life.27 Can a man rake fire to his chest and not burn his garments?28 Or can a man walk on hot coals without scorching his feet?29 It is the same with anyone having relations with his neighbor’s wife; No one who touches her will go unpunished.30 People do not despise a thief If he steals to satisfy himself when he is hungry.31 Yet, when found, he will repay sevenfold; He will give up all the valuables of his house.32 Anyone committing adultery with a woman is lacking good sense; The one who does so brings ruin on himself.33 He will get only wounds and dishonor, And his disgrace will not be wiped away.34 For jealousy makes a husband furious; He will show no compassion when he takes revenge.35 He will accept no compensation; He will not be appeased, no matter how large you make the gift.
"But the wife of another man preys on a precious life" – this deeply makes me wonder why David had a chance to notice Bathsheba. What could compel a woman to bathe on the rooftop in the late afternoon of spring? Nothing is certain, and judgment does not belong to us. Was she intentionally seeking the king's attention? Or was she a trap for David, manipulated by someone from a spiritual realm, much like Saul tried to manipulate David through his daughter's love, as written in 1 Samuel 18:20-21? "Now Saul’s daughter Miʹchal was in love with David, and it was reported to Saul, and this pleased him. So Saul said: “I will give her to him to serve as a snare to him, so that the hand of the Phi·lisʹtines may come upon him.” Jehovah addressed the sin of David and Bathsheba, redeeming them in the process. He embraced them as His own, treating them as son and daughter. Though they faced punishment, He chose to allow them to continue their journey under the sun."We know that God makes all his works cooperate together for the good of those who love God, those who are the ones called according to his purpose; because those whom he gave his first recognition he also foreordained to be patterned after the image of his Son, so that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. Moreover, those whom he foreordained are the ones he also called; and those whom he called are the ones he also declared to be righteous. Finally those whom he declared righteous are the ones he also glorified. What, then, are we to say about these things? If God is for us, who will be against us? Since he did not even spare his own Son but handed him over for us all, will he not also, along with him, kindly give us all other things? Who will file accusation against God’s chosen ones? God is the One who declares them righteous." - Romans 8:28-33. I highlighted the thoughts that clarify how Jehovah deals with His chosen ones. This holds profound meaning for those who are preordained today for such a high calling, walking in a light that is brighter than ever before.
2 Samuel 11 At the start of the year* (* that is, in the spring), at the time when kings go on campaigns, David sent Joʹab and his servants and the entire army of Israel to bring the Amʹmon·ites to ruin, and they besieged Rabʹbah, while David stayed in Jerusalem.2 One evening* (* - Or “Late one afternoon”) David got up from his bed and walked around on the rooftop of the king’s house. From the rooftop he saw a woman bathing, and the woman was very beautiful.3 David sent someone to inquire about the woman, and he reported: “Is this not Bath-sheʹba the daughter of E·liʹam and the wife of U·riʹah the Hitʹtite?”4 Then David sent messengers to bring her. So she came in to him, and he lay down with her. (This happened while she was purifying herself from her uncleanness.) Afterward, she returned to her house.5 The woman became pregnant, and she sent a message to David: “I am pregnant.”6 At this David sent a message to Joʹab: “Send to me U·riʹah the Hitʹtite.” So Joʹab sent U·riʹah to David.7 When U·riʹah came to him, David asked him how Joʹab was getting along, how the troops were getting along, and how the war was going.8 David then said to U·riʹah: “Go down to your house and relax.” When U·riʹah left the king’s house, the king’s courtesy gift was sent after him.9 However, U·riʹah slept at the entrance of the king’s house with all the other servants of his lord, and he did not go down to his own house.10 So David was told: “U·riʹah did not go down to his own house.” At that David said to U·riʹah: “Have you not just returned from a journey? Why did you not go down to your own house?”11 U·riʹah replied to David: “The Ark and Israel and Judah are dwelling in temporary shelters, and my lord Joʹab and the servants of my lord are camping in the open field. So should I go into my own house to eat and drink and lie down with my wife? As surely as you live and are alive, I will not do this thing!”12 Then David said to U·riʹah: “Stay here also today, and tomorrow I will send you away.” So U·riʹah stayed in Jerusalem on that day and the following day.13 David then sent for him to come and eat and drink with him, and he got him drunk. But in the evening, he went out to sleep on his bed with the servants of his lord, and he did not go down to his house.14 In the morning David wrote a letter to Joʹab and sent it by the hand of U·riʹah.15 He wrote in the letter: “Put U·riʹah in the front lines where the fighting is fiercest. Then retreat from behind him, so that he will be struck down and die.”16 Joʹab had been carefully watching the city, and he stationed U·riʹah where he knew there were mighty warriors.17 When the men of the city came out and fought against Joʹab, some of David’s servants fell, and U·riʹah the Hitʹtite was among those who died.18 Joʹab now reported to David all the news about the war.19 He instructed the messenger: “When you finish speaking to the king about all the news of the war,20 the king may become angry and say to you, ‘Why did you have to go so near to the city to fight? Did you not know that they would shoot from the top of the wall?21 Who struck down A·bimʹe·lech the son of Je·rubʹbe·sheth? Was it not a woman who threw an upper millstone on him from the top of the wall, causing his death at Theʹbez? Why did you have to go so close to the wall?’ Then say, ‘Your servant U·riʹah the Hitʹtite also died.’”22 So the messenger went and told David everything that Joʹab had sent him to tell.23 Then the messenger told David: “Their men overpowered us, and they came out against us in the field; but we drove them back to the entrance of the city gate.24 And the archers were shooting at your servants from the top of the wall, and some of the servants of the king died; your servant U·riʹah the Hitʹtite also died.”25 At that David said to the messenger: “Say this to Joʹab: ‘Do not let this matter trouble you, for the sword devours one as well as another. Intensify your battle against the city and conquer it.’ And encourage him.”26 When U·riʹah’s wife heard that her husband U·riʹah had died, she began to mourn her husband.27 As soon as the mourning period was over, David sent for her and brought her to his house, and she became his wife and bore him a son. But what David had done was very displeasing to Jehovah.
These three women - Michal, Abigail and Bath-sheba
These three stories of the women Solomon knew well—Michal, Abigail, and Bath-sheba—must have profoundly shaped his perception of the word "lady." Each of these women was not just a wife to David but a person of notable character, wisdom, and influence. Their stories reveal how deeply David valued such women and what he was willing to do for them, even at great personal risk. Men have historically been inspired to perform heroic deeds for women of such caliber. David’s actions—both noble and flawed—demonstrate the intense drive and passion that a "lady" can evoke. Solomon, having witnessed and understood these dynamics, undoubtedly carried these impressions into his reflections on life and relationships, influencing his writings and his own understanding of the word "lady."
To truly grasp the esteem Jehovah held for one of this remarkable woman, consider that Bathsheba's instructions to Solomon were included in the inspired Word of God, the Bible. This alone highlights the significance of her wisdom and the lasting impact of her counsel. For my readers who wish to delve deeper into her inspired expressions, I offer her profound words below in a collapsible format for research and greater understanding. While the entire text may not directly align with my theme here, it remains invaluable for appreciating her influence and the depth of her insight:
Proverbs 31 The words of King Lemʹu·el, the weighty message his mother gave to instruct him: 2 What should I tell you, O my son, What, O son of my womb, And what, O son of my vows? 3 Do not give your vigor to women, Nor follow ways that destroy kings. 4 It is not for kings, O Lemʹu·el, It is not for kings to drink wine Nor for rulers to say, “Where is my drink?” 5 So that they do not drink and forget what is decreed And pervert the rights of the lowly ones. 6 Give alcohol to those who are perishing And wine to those in bitter distress. 7 Let them drink and forget their poverty; Let them remember their trouble no more. 8 Speak up in behalf of the speechless; Defend the rights of all who are perishing. 9 Speak up and judge righteously; Defend the rights of the lowly and the poor.א [Aleph] 10 Who can find a capable wife? Her value is far more than that of corals.ב [Beth] 11 Her husband trusts her from his heart, And he lacks nothing of value.ג [Gimel] 12 She rewards him with good, not bad, All the days of her life.ד [Daleth] 13 She obtains wool and linen; She delights to work with her hands.ה [He] 14 She is like the ships of a merchant, Bringing her food in from afar.ו [Waw] 15 She also rises while it is still night, Providing food for her household And portions for her female servants.ז [Zayin] 16 She sets her mind on a field and buys it; She plants a vineyard from her own labors.ח [Heth] 17 She prepares herself for hard work, And she strengthens her arms.ט [Teth] 18 She sees that her trading is profitable; Her lamp does not go out at night.י [Yod] 19 Her hands seize the distaff, And her hands take hold of the spindle.כ [Kaph] 20 She extends her palm to the lowly one, And she opens her hands to the poor.ל [Lamed] 21 She does not worry about her household because of the snow, For her whole household is clothed in warm garments.מ [Mem] 22 She makes her own bed covers. Her clothing is of linen and purple wool.נ [Nun] 23 Her husband is well-known in the city gates, Where he sits among the elders of the land.ס [Samekh] 24 She makes and sells linen garments And supplies belts to the merchants.ע [Ayin] 25 She is clothed with strength and splendor, And she looks to the future with confidence.פ [Pe] 26 She opens her mouth in wisdom; The law of kindness is on her tongue.צ [Tsade] 27 She watches over the activity of her household, And the bread of laziness she does not eat.ק [Qoph] 28 Her children rise up and declare her happy; Her husband rises up and praises her.ר [Resh] 29 There are many capable women, But you—you surpass them all.ש [Shin] 30 Charm may be false, and beauty may be fleeting, But the woman who fears Jehovah will be praised.ת [Taw] 31 Give her the reward for what she does, And let her works praise her in the city gates.
Who are those ladies?
Solomon's Many Ladies
Solomon became king of Israel after the death of his father, David, around 1037 BCE. His reign is traditionally understood to have lasted 40 years, meaning it concluded around 998 BCE. The Bible provides insights into Solomon's early years as king, during which he focused on consolidating his rule, building the temple for Jehovah, and developing Israel into a prosperous kingdom.
When Did Solomon Start Marrying Wives?
Solomon’s journey with love and relationships began early in his life. As the son of King David, his rise to the throne brought him great prominence, and with it came opportunities to form connections with women from all walks of life. The timeline of his reign provides us with a glimpse into how these relationships shaped his understanding of love and the qualities that bring lasting joy.
Solomon’s son, Rehoboam, was 41 years old when he became king. Since Solomon’s reign lasted 40 years, this means Rehoboam was born before Solomon became king. It’s likely that Solomon’s first marriage occurred in his youth, long before the splendor of his royal court grew to include 700 wives and 300 concubines.
Early in his reign, Solomon wrote The Song of Songs, a poetic celebration of love. This intimate and deeply personal work speaks of a Shulammite girl and her steadfast devotion to her shepherd lover. Despite Solomon’s attempts to charm her with his wealth and position, her love for her shepherd remains unshaken. The imagery is rich and vivid, portraying the intensity of youthful love, the beauty of loyalty, and the joy of untainted affection.
Romantic Love in Its Ideal Form
If you’ve read Song of Songs, you’ll know it’s a poetic celebration of romantic and physical love, possibly performed with male and female singers accompanied by musical instruments. It vividly expresses the intoxication of love. The Song of Songs beautifully depicts the intoxicating delights of romantic and physical love between Shulammite and her shepherd boyfriend. Those who have experienced this depth of connection will find the expressions in this poetic work strikingly relatable:
"My dear one is to me like a fragrant bag of myrrh spending the night between my breasts."
– Song of Songs 1:13
"Let me see you and hear your voice, for your voice is pleasant and your appearance is lovely.”
– Song of Songs 2:14
"Your lips are like a scarlet thread, and your speech is delightful."
– Song of Songs 4:3
"You have captured my heart, my sister, my bride. You have captured my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace."
– Song of Songs 4:9
"Your expressions of affection are far better than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume than any spice!"
– Song of Songs 4:10
These verses vividly capture the peak of romantic love and physical attraction. They convey the joy and excitement of being deeply in love, a feeling many hope to carry throughout their marriages.
Even at this early stage, Solomon had begun gathering queens and concubines, as the Song of Songs mentions 60 queens and 80 concubines. However, the story’s focus is not on them but on the purity of a love unshaken by wealth or power. This contrast is striking, revealing a subtle message: true delight in love cannot be bought or forced—it must be nurtured through mutual respect and devotion.
As Solomon aged and his understanding deepened, his reflections on relationships grew more nuanced. In his Proverbs, he warns against the dangers of being captivated solely by physical beauty or fleeting charm. He writes: "Charm may be false, and beauty may be fleeting, but the woman who fears Jehovah will be praised" (Proverbs 31:30). This verse encapsulates the wisdom he gained from a lifetime of experiences. Solomon recognized that a woman’s inner qualities—her wisdom, integrity, and godly devotion—are far more valuable than external allure. Another proverb cautions: "Do not desire her beauty in your heart or allow her to captivate you with her alluring eyes" (Proverbs 6:25). Such words suggest Solomon’s realization of the emptiness that can accompany relationships built on superficial attractions alone.
Solomon’s reflections align closely with the teachings of the apostle Peter, who wrote centuries later: "Do not let your adornment be external—the braiding of hair and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothing—but let it be the secret person of the heart in the incorruptible adornment of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God" (1 Peter 3:3-4).
Through his writings, Solomon invites us to look beyond outward appearances. He challenges us to seek deeper connections—those rooted in mutual respect, shared values, and spiritual alignment. His own life, with all its triumphs and failures, stands as a testament to the importance of finding a partner whose qualities endure beyond the fleeting pleasures of youth. By the end of his reign, Solomon’s experiences with women had shaped not only his personal journey but also the wisdom he recorded. The man who once wrote of the intoxication of love in The Song of Songs came to realize that the greatest delight lies in a partner whose heart and actions reflect Jehovah’s values. Such a relationship is not only a source of lasting joy but also a reflection of God’s original purpose for marriage—two becoming one, united in love and respect. How sad, though, that Solomon never found such a woman for himself.
Who are those ladies?
Ladies that Solomon never met
Before I delve into my understanding of Solomon's "ladies," I need to bring to your attention three more women of high regard: Esther, Vashti, and Sawako Takahashi. Each of their stories holds a profound significance that builds the foundation for my interpretation of this term. Bear with me, as without these stories, I cannot fully unveil my vision of what Solomon meant.
Vashti and Esther
The main reason I want to refer to Esther and Vashti is that they were first ladies in the royal court of Persia—a court renowned for its structure, grandeur, and influence. Although they lived hundreds of years after Solomon, we must remember that Solomon set an extraordinarily high bar for the structure and administration of royal courts. His wisdom and organizational skills left a legacy that undoubtedly influenced royal courts across time and space, including Persia.
The fact that dignitaries of the highest rank traveled great distances to visit Solomon in person demonstrates his profound influence. His administration likely became a model for others, as rulers sought to emulate the splendor and effectiveness of his reign.
The Persian royal court, as described in the Bible, provides one of the most detailed glimpses into the operation of such a system. The story of Esther, in particular, offers an invaluable perspective on the roles and qualities of women in positions of high regard in a royal setting. This makes it a worthy subject of investigation when trying to unpack the meaning of Solomon’s words: “Lady, even ladies.” You can read the full story below:
ESTHER 1 Now in the days of A·has·u·eʹrus, that is, the A·has·u·eʹrus who ruled over 127 provinces from Inʹdi·a to E·thi·oʹpi·a,2 in those days when King A·has·u·eʹrus was sitting on his royal throne in Shuʹshan the citadel,3 in the third year of his reign, he held a banquet for all his princes and his servants. The army of Persia and Meʹdi·a, the nobles, and the princes of the provinces were before him,4 and he showed them the wealth of his glorious kingdom and the grandeur and the splendor of his magnificence for many days, 180 days.5 And when these days were completed, the king held a banquet for seven days for all the people present in Shuʹshan the citadel, from the greatest to the least, in the courtyard of the garden of the king’s palace.6 There were linen, fine cotton, and blue material held fast in ropes of fine fabric, purple wool in silver rings, pillars of marble, and couches of gold and silver on a pavement of porphyry, marble, pearl, and black marble.7 Wine was served in gold cups; each cup was different from the other, and the royal wine was plentiful, according to the means of the king.8 The drinking was according to the rule that no one was under compulsion, for the king had arranged with the officials of his palace that each should do as he pleased.9 Queen Vashʹti also held a banquet for the women at the royal house of King A·has·u·eʹrus.10 On the seventh day, when the king’s heart was in a cheerful mood because of the wine, he told Me·huʹman, Bizʹtha, Har·boʹna, Bigʹtha, A·bagʹtha, Zeʹthar, and Carʹkas, the seven court officials who were personal attendants to King A·has·u·eʹrus,11 to bring before the king Queen Vashʹti, wearing the royal headdress, to show the peoples and the princes her beauty, for she was very beautiful.12 But Queen Vashʹti kept refusing to come at the king’s order that was conveyed through the court officials. At this the king became very angry, and his rage flared up within him.13 The king then spoke to the wise men who had insight with regard to precedents (for in this way the king’s matter came before all those versed in law and legal cases,14 and those closest to him were Car·sheʹna, Sheʹthar, Ad·maʹtha, Tarʹshish, Meʹres, Mar·seʹna, and Me·muʹcan, seven princes of Persia and Meʹdi·a, who had access to the king and who occupied the highest positions in the kingdom).15 The king asked: “According to law, what is to be done with Queen Vashʹti because she has not obeyed the order of King A·has·u·eʹrus conveyed through the court officials?”16 To this Me·muʹcan said in the presence of the king and the princes: “It is not against the king alone that Queen Vashʹti has done wrong, but against all the princes and against all the peoples in all the provinces of King A·has·u·eʹrus.17 For what the queen did will become known by all the wives, and they will despise their husbands and say, ‘King A·has·u·eʹrus said to bring in Queen Vashʹti before him, but she refused to come.’18 This very day the princesses of Persia and Meʹdi·a who know about what the queen did will talk to all the princes of the king, resulting in much contempt and indignation.19 If it seems good to the king, let a royal decree be issued from him, and let it be written among the laws of Persia and Meʹdi·a, which cannot be repealed, that Vashʹti may never again come in before King A·has·u·eʹrus; and let the king confer her royal position on a woman who is better than she is.20 And when the decree of the king is heard in all his vast realm, all the wives will give honor to their husbands, from the greatest to the least.”21 This proposal pleased the king and the princes, and the king did what Me·muʹcan said.22 So he sent letters to all the royal provinces, to each province in its own script and to each people in its own language, for every husband to be master in his own house and to speak in the language of his own people. Chapter 2 After these things, when the rage of King A·has·u·eʹrus had subsided, he remembered what Vashʹti had done and what had been decided against her.2 Then the king’s personal attendants said: “A search should be made for young, beautiful virgins for the king.3 And let the king appoint commissioners in all the provinces of his realm to bring together all the beautiful young virgins to Shuʹshan the citadel, to the house of the women. Let them be put in the care of Hegʹa·i the king’s eunuch and guardian of the women, and let them be given beauty treatments.4 And the young woman who is most pleasing to the king will be queen instead of Vashʹti.” The suggestion was pleasing to the king, and that is what he did.5 There was a certain Jewish man in Shuʹshan the citadel whose name was Morʹde·cai son of Jaʹir son of Shimʹe·i son of Kish, a Benʹja·min·ite,6 who had been taken into exile from Jerusalem with the people who were deported with King Jec·o·niʹah of Judah, whom King Neb·u·chad·nezʹzar of Babylon took into exile.7 He was the guardian of Ha·dasʹsah, that is, Esther, the daughter of his father’s brother, for she had neither father nor mother. The young woman was beautifully formed and attractive in appearance, and at the death of her father and her mother, Morʹde·cai took her as his daughter.8 When the king’s word and his law were proclaimed and when many young women were brought together at Shuʹshan the citadel under the care of Hegʹa·i, Esther was also taken to the king’s house under the care of Hegʹa·i the guardian of the women.9 Now the young woman was pleasing to him and won his favor, so he promptly arranged for her beauty treatments and her diet, and he assigned to her seven selected young women from the king’s house. He also transferred her and her young attendants to the best place in the house of the women.10 Esther did not say anything about her people or her relatives, for Morʹde·cai had instructed her not to tell anyone.11 Day after day Morʹde·cai would walk in front of the courtyard of the house of the women to learn about Esther’s welfare and about what was happening to her.12 Each young woman had her turn to go in to King A·has·u·eʹrus after completing the 12-month treatment that was prescribed for the women, for this was the way they had to fulfill their beauty treatment—six months with oil of myrrh and six months with balsam oil and various ointments for beauty treatment.13 Then the young woman was ready to go in to the king, and whatever she asked for would be given her when she went from the house of the women to the king’s house.14 In the evening she would go in, and in the morning she would return to the second house of the women, under the care of Sha·ashʹgaz the king’s eunuch, the guardian of the concubines. She would not go to the king again unless the king had been especially pleased with her and she was requested by name.15 And when the turn came for Esther the daughter of Abʹi·ha·il the uncle of Morʹde·cai, who had taken her as his daughter, to go in to the king, she did not request anything except what Hegʹa·i the king’s eunuch, the guardian of the women, recommended. (All the while Esther was winning the favor of everyone who saw her.)16 Esther was taken to King A·has·u·eʹrus at his royal house in the tenth month, that is, the month of Teʹbeth, in the seventh year of his reign.17 And the king came to love Esther more than all the other women, and she won his favor and approval more than any of the other virgins. So he put the royal headdress on her head and made her queen instead of Vashʹti.18 And the king held a great banquet for all his princes and his servants, the banquet of Esther. He then proclaimed an amnesty for the provinces, and he kept giving gifts according to the means of the king.19 Now when virgins were brought together a second time, Morʹde·cai was sitting in the king’s gate.20 Esther did not say anything about her relatives and her people, just as Morʹde·cai had instructed her; Esther continued to do what Morʹde·cai said, just as when she was under his care.
This story reveals the immense pleasure and pride that men, from the most prominent to the least, derive from their ladies, as well as how easily that pleasure can be taken away. Would such an example reflect the sentiments of the sons of men in Solomon's royal court? I have no doubt!
Below, I will present some Proverbs collected and written by Solomon that highlight the dynamics of relationships between men and women, as well as examples of events during Solomon's life that further illustrate these themes. These insights shed light on the delicate balance of respect, harmony, and pleasure in relationships, particularly in the royal court setting Solomon presided over.
"A capable wife is a crown to her husband, but the wife who acts shamefully is like rottenness in his bones."- Proverbs 12:4
"The truly wise woman builds up her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands." - Proverbs 14:1
"A foolish son brings calamity on his father, and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping of rain. A house and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a discreet wife is from Jehovah." - Proverbs 19:13-14
"Better to live on a corner of the roof than in the same house with a quarrelsome wife." - Proverbs 21:9
"Better to live in a wilderness than with a quarrelsome and irritable wife." - Proverbs 21:19
"Who can find a capable wife? Her value is far more than that of corals. Her husband trusts her from his heart, and he lacks nothing of value. She rewards him with good, not bad, all the days of her life."
"Her husband is well-known in the city gates, where he sits among the elders of the land." - Proverbs 31:10-12, 23
"So Bath-sheʹba went in to the king, into his private room. The king was very old, and Abʹi·shag the Shuʹnam·mite was waiting on the king. Then Bath-sheʹba bowed low and prostrated herself to the king, and the king said: “What is your request?” She replied: “My lord, it was you who swore by Jehovah your God to your servant, ‘Your son Solʹo·mon will become king after me, and he is the one who will sit on my throne.’ But look! Ad·o·niʹjah has become king, and my lord the king does not know anything about it. He sacrificed bulls, fattened animals, and sheep in great quantity and invited all the sons of the king and A·biʹa·thar the priest and Joʹab the chief of the army; but he did not invite your servant Solʹo·mon. And now, my lord the king, the eyes of all Israel are upon you to tell them who will sit on the throne of my lord the king after him. Otherwise, as soon as my lord the king is laid to rest with his forefathers, I and also my son Solʹo·mon will be considered traitors.” - 1 Kings 1:15-21
Sawako Takahashi: A Modern Inspiration
The Child of a Frog “The child of a frog is a frog.” This Japanese proverb means that a child grows up to be just like its parent. My mother was a geisha.I GREW up in a geisha house run by my mother. So from when I was small, I was surrounded by beautiful ladies who wore the most expensive kimonos. I knew that when I got bigger, I would join their world. My training began in 1928 on the sixth day of the sixth month when I was six years old. The figure 666 was said to guarantee success.I studied Japan’s traditional arts—dancing, singing, playing musical instruments, performing the tea ceremony, and so forth. Every day after school I ran home, changed, and went to my lessons. There I would be with my school friends again because we were all children of geisha. It was a busy time, and I enjoyed it.In those days before World War II, compulsory schooling ended at age 12, so that is when I started to work. As a fledgling geisha, I dressed in gorgeous kimonos with sleeves hanging down almost to my feet. I felt elated as I went on my first assignment.My Work as a GeishaMy work basically involved entertaining and acting as a hostess. When wealthy men planned dinner parties at exclusive eating establishments, they would call up a geisha house and request the services of a few geisha. The geisha were expected to liven up the evening and ensure that each guest went home satisfied, feeling that he had a good time.To do this, we had to anticipate each guest’s need and provide for it—even before the guest realized he had a need. The hardest part, I think, was having to adapt at a moment’s notice. If guests suddenly wanted to watch dancing, then we danced. If music was desired, we got out our instruments and played the music requested or sang whatever kind of song was asked for.A common misunderstanding is that all geisha are high-class, expensive call girls. This is not the case. Although there are geisha who make their living by selling themselves, there is no need for a geisha to stoop to that. I know because I never did. A geisha is an entertainer, and if she is good, her skills bring her work, expensive gifts, and generous tips from customers.Admittedly, few are good enough to make it to the top. Most geisha become professional in just one of Japan’s traditional arts. But I held diplomas in seven such arts, including Japanese dance, flower arranging, the tea ceremony, the Japanese drum known as taiko, and three styles of music played on the three-stringed shamisen. Without these qualifications, to make a living, I would perhaps have felt the need to do whatever customers asked.When Japan was not economically stable, girls sometimes chose to become geisha in order to support their families. They borrowed money to pay for their training and kimonos. Others were sold by their families to geisha houses. Their owners, having paid large sums of money, required repayment from the girls. Geisha in these circumstances were greatly disadvantaged, for their training began late and they started off heavily in debt. Many of these geisha resorted to or were forced into immorality to meet financial responsibilities.My services came to be in demand by well-known people in the world of sports, entertainment, business, and politics. Cabinet and prime ministers were among my clients. These men treated me with respect and thanked me for my work. Although I did not join in the general conversation unless invited, I was sometimes asked for my opinion. So I read newspapers and listened to the radio daily in order to keep up-to-date with the news. Parties at which I served were often held for the purpose of negotiations, so I had to be discreet and not repeat things I heard.
The story of Sawako Takahashi, as recounted above, provides a fascinating glimpse into the demanding and disciplined life of a geisha. It demonstrates how women of exceptional skill and dedication can fulfill needs far beyond the physical, offering companionship, cultural refinement, and intellectual engagement.
Reflections on the Geisha's Role
Sawako's account highlights the immense training and artistry required to be a geisha, encompassing traditional arts such as music, dance, and the tea ceremony. Her work required not only technical expertise but also emotional intelligence and adaptability to anticipate and respond to her clients' needs. Contrary to common misconceptions, Sawako underscores that true geisha are not defined by immoral activities but by their role as high-class entertainers and cultural custodians. Their value lies in their ability to enrich social interactions with beauty, skill, and intelligence.
Connection to the Concept of a "Lady"
This story resonates with the broader concept of a "lady" as discussed in Solomon's writings. A "lady" of high regard, whether in the context of ancient courts or modern society, embodies qualities that satisfy not just physical desires but also emotional, intellectual, and cultural needs. Like the metaphor of coral growing under pressure, a true lady is cultivated over time through discipline, resilience, and refinement.
Application to Broader Themes
Sawako's story bridges the historical examples of notable women in Solomon's court with modern interpretations of what it means to be a woman of high regard. It demonstrates that the "delight of sons of men" often lies in the companionship of someone who can elevate their experiences, offering depth, grace, and understanding. This perspective enriches our understanding of Solomon's enigmatic reference to "lady, even ladies," linking it to the timeless value of women who embody these multifaceted qualities.
Below, I’ve included excerpts from her story, as published in the Awake! magazine, February 22, 1996. These passages are relevant to my exploration of the concept of “lady, even ladies.”
You can read the full story by clicking here.
Solomon’s Concept of a “Lady”
Solomon’s experiences with women—from the love and respect for his mother, Bathsheba, to the romantic highs captured in the Song of Songs, and even the visit of the Queen of Sheba—provide a multifaceted view of what the term “lady” might have meant to him. Each of these interactions casts a unique light on his understanding of women, relationships, and their impact on his life and faith.
The Influence of Bathsheba
As his mother, Bathsheba undoubtedly shaped Solomon’s early understanding of wisdom, virtue, and loyalty. Her guidance was immortalized in the inspired words of Proverbs 31, describing the ideal capable wife. For Solomon, the respect and love for a mother are foundational lessons in life. Bathsheba’s role as a trusted advisor, a woman of dignity, and a queen likely informed his early respect for women of substance.
Romantic Love in the Song of Songs
Written in Solomon’s youth, Song of Songs captures the intense beauty of first love. The story of Sulamith portrays the purity, passion, and idealism of love at its highest. Yet, this love story—despite its intensity—also reflects the fleeting nature of such feelings. For many, such love doesn’t last a lifetime, often leaving behind bittersweet memories or heartache, as it did for Sulamith. Solomon himself seemed to struggle with sustaining such a connection, as evidenced by his later reflections in Ecclesiastes.
The Queen of Sheba’s Visit
The Queen of Sheba represents another dimension of womanhood in Solomon’s life. Her visit is described with admiration and respect. She came seeking wisdom and left deeply impressed, praising Jehovah for Solomon’s insights. The queen’s intelligence, dignity, and curiosity demonstrated a level of partnership based on mutual respect and intellectual exchange. However, there’s no indication of romantic involvement, underscoring the variety of ways Solomon may have viewed and valued women.
Solomon’s Search for Meaning in Relationships
Despite his many wives and concubines—numbering 1,000—Solomon’s own words in Ecclesiastes reflect a deep sense of emptiness and disillusionment: “What I continually sought, I have not found. One man out of a thousand I found, but a woman among them I have not found.” This admission reveals a profound sadness. Even with all his experiences, Solomon lamented that he hadn’t found a woman who could truly satisfy his deepest spiritual and emotional needs.
I personally think Solomon spread himself too thin. The concept of seeking great pleasure with many partners simultaneously does not harmonize with Jehovah’s standard that “the two will become one flesh.” Solomon himself recognized this truth, as reflected in his words in Proverbs 5:15-23: “Drink water from your own cistern And flowing water from your own well. Should your springs be dispersed outside, Your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be for you alone, And not for strangers with you. May your own fountain be blessed, And may you rejoice with the wife of your youth, A loving doe, a graceful mountain goat. Let her breasts satisfy you at all times. May you be captivated by her love constantly. So why, my son, should you be captivated by a wayward woman Or embrace the bosom of an immoral woman? For the ways of man are before the eyes of Jehovah; He examines all his paths. The wicked one is ensnared by his own errors, And he will be caught in the ropes of his own sin. He will die for lack of discipline And go astray because of his excessive foolishness.”
Solomon filled his life with many ladies, viewing them as the pinnacle of pleasure. Even though he established significant political connections with powerful nations by marrying royal women from those nations, this sense of security proved to be a façade. After Solomon’s death, his kingdom was fractured, and the alliances forged through these marriages dissolved like a mirage.
In truth, all of Solomon’s success stemmed from Jehovah’s blessings, granted as part of the covenant Jehovah made with his father, David. Jehovah had promised David that his lineage would remain on the throne, as long as they remained faithful. Solomon’s wisdom, wealth, and political stability were not of his own making but were gifts from Jehovah, fulfilling His divine promise.
However, Solomon’s reliance on political marriages and the pursuit of earthly pleasures represented a deviation from Jehovah’s guidance. These actions led to his spiritual decline, as his heart was turned away by his many wives who introduced him to false worship. This serves as a potent reminder that true security comes not from human schemes or alliances but from loyalty and trust in Jehovah’s sovereignty.
These words illustrate the importance of cherishing a singular, devoted relationship rather than dispersing affection and intimacy indiscriminately. There is no way to find “one in a thousand” if you yourself are “one for a thousand.” This, I believe, is the tragedy of Solomon. As Solomon lamented in Ecclesiastes 1:18: “For an abundance of wisdom brings an abundance of frustration, So that whoever increases knowledge increases pain.” Ultimately, he was ensnared by the ropes of his own sin, and his lack of discipline led him astray. Solomon’s life stands as a powerful cautionary tale—a reminder that even the wisest of men are not immune to the consequences of their choices.
Many of his marriages were political alliances, lacking the genuine companionship and shared faith that could have supported his spiritual journey. This void, compounded by his turning away from Jehovah in his later years, underscores the tragedy of his choices. Interestingly, Solomon, in all his wisdom and experience, also recognized the dangers that certain women could pose in a man's life. He candidly wrote: "More bitter than death is the woman who is like a hunter’s net, whose heart is like dragnets, and whose hands are like prison chains. The one who pleases the true God will escape her, but the sinner is captured by her." – Ecclesiastes 7:26
Solomon’s inability to find "one woman among a thousand" (Ecclesiastes 7:28) can be traced back to the dynamics of his relationships and the sheer number of wives and concubines he had. When someone has a thousand partners, the depth of intimacy and loyalty that can be built between two people is inevitably diluted. Solomon himself praised the beauty of monogamous loyalty, describing the "wife of one’s youth" in Proverbs 5:18-19 as a source of joy and intimacy. However, his own choices in marriage and relationships seemed to prevent him from experiencing the full depth of such intimacy.
Once, during a discussion with a friend about the role women have played in Jehovah’s purpose, I shared my analysis of their profound influence. When I mentioned that even angels were captivated by the allure of women, my friend responded with a simple yet striking observation: “There is something about women!” His comment lingered with me, encapsulating the undeniable truth of their powerful and multifaceted impact.
I hope this chapter will help my readers delve deeper into understanding the attractive forces that women exert over men—and even angels. By exploring this influence through the lens of scripture, history, and personal reflection, my goal is to guide others in drawing reasonable conclusions about how to honor, appreciate, and fit these remarkable forces into their lives in a balanced and meaningful way.
"Now when men started to grow in number on the surface of the ground and daughters were born to them, the sons of the true God began to notice that the daughters of men were beautiful. So they began taking as wives all whom they chose." - Genesis 6:1,2
"And the angels who did not keep their original position but forsook their own proper dwelling place, he has reserved with eternal bonds in dense darkness for the judgment of the great day." - Jude 6
The Challenge of Building Loyalty
Building loyalty and intimacy requires time, trust, and mutual dedication, which are hard to cultivate in relationships divided among many partners. Solomon, despite his wisdom, could not replicate the depth of connection Adam felt for Eve because his lifestyle was fundamentally different from Jehovah’s original purpose for marriage. Solomon's relationships were often politically motivated, involving foreign women who introduced influences that eventually led his heart astray (1 Kings 11:1-4). This lack of spiritual alignment and emotional focus likely contributed to his emptiness.
In contrast, Adam and Eve’s bond was unique because it was Jehovah’s direct provision. Adam’s joyful exclamation—"At last"—reflects the relief and delight of finding someone made specifically for him. This joy was rooted in their exclusivity, a dynamic Solomon could not replicate with his divided attention.
Modern Perspectives on Being Alone
The sense of being alone varies from person to person and circumstance to circumstance. For instance, some people, like the older sister Rebekah, may find fulfillment in their independence and self-sufficiency. Her contentment after marriage and divorce may reflect her ability to find purpose and peace without a partner. But Adam’s solitude was unique in that he was the only human on earth, with no equal companion or partner "according to his kind."
Jehovah’s recognition that “it is not good for the man to continue to be alone” (Genesis 2:18) highlights the human need for companionship. While some, like Rebekah, may thrive in their independence, the example of Adam and Eve underscores the special value of a bond rooted in mutual purpose, exclusivity, and alignment with Jehovah’s design.
The Beauty of Finding "One"
Adam’s poetic response to Eve illustrates the joy of finding someone perfectly suited to complement and complete us. This unique bond stands in stark contrast to Solomon’s experience, where the abundance of relationships left him feeling empty and unfulfilled. As Solomon reflected on his relationships, it’s possible he longed for the kind of intimacy and loyalty that Adam found in Eve—a relationship where two people grow together in unity and purpose under Jehovah’s guidance.
The Price of a Virtuous Woman
Returning to Solomon’s inspired words in Proverbs: “Who can find a capable wife? Her value is far more than that of corals.” This statement highlights the rarity and worth of a woman who embodies godly qualities. While Solomon admired such virtues, his personal life fell short of realizing this ideal. His reflection in Ecclesiastes—“I have not found”—may reveal not only his personal failings but also a broader truth about humanity’s struggle to achieve ideal relationships outside of Jehovah’s guidance.
Conclusion on My Investigation of Solomon's Mysterious Term: "A Lady, Even Ladies"
This phrase appears in the Bible only once and seems distinct from the more common terms for woman/women, wife/wives, or concubine/concubines. Its uniqueness suggests that it holds a special meaning, one intentionally encoded by Jehovah Himself within the inspired scriptures. If you recall what I wrote in the "Preface" to this book, you will understand why I approach this term with such reverence and intrigue. If not, I highly recommend revisiting the "Preface" and preparing your heart prayerfully before engaging with the conclusions I share here.
Solomon's phrase "a lady, even ladies" allows for interpretation, and I believe this openness is intentional. Solomon himself, for various reasons, didn’t fully grasp or realize the depth of its meaning. The distractions of having many wives, combined with his eventual spiritual decline, hindered his ability to uncover the deeper truths behind this expression. The full understanding of how to attain such a “lady” only became accessible after Jesus paid the ransom, opening the way to spiritual clarity and divine relationships.
My broader investigation into the meaning of "a lady, even ladies" will be presented in the chapter “God’s Word Endures Forever.” I find it fitting to leave the term partially unveiled in this chapter because its full meaning only came to me during the writing of this book. The deep research required for this project allowed me to uncover something profoundly precious—an insight I am honored to share with my readers. - NEED TO BE REVISIT
However, it’s essential to note that the level of understanding Solomon possessed was sufficient to influence my decision to dedicate my life to Jehovah. For 30 years, I have remained faithful to that dedication, drawing inspiration from Solomon’s words and lessons.
I encourage you to finish this chapter and familiarize yourself with the chapters that follow. Together, they provide a complete picture of my journey and prepare you for the insights I will share regarding the meaning revealed to me about “a lady, even ladies.”
Solomon’s experiences with women offer a spectrum of insights—from profound respect and admiration to regret and disillusionment. His writings serve as a reminder of the complexity of human relationships and the importance of seeking spiritual alignment in all aspects of life.
For Jesus, this realization led to an even higher vision: relationships based not on earthly ties but on shared faith and dedication to Jehovah. As Solomon himself concluded: “Fear the true God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole obligation of man.” (Ecclesiastes 12:13)
The Reality of Love Over Time
Yet, as we reflect on these poetic verses, a question arises: how long do these sentiments last? How many couples can maintain such devotion, passion, and admiration after years—or even decades—of marriage? How many can still say, "Your voice is pleasant and your appearance is lovely," or, "You have captured my heart with one glance of your eyes"?
The reality is that, for many, the intensity of romantic love fades with time. The pressures of life, the challenges of raising children, and personal differences often take their toll. Maintaining the kind of love described in Song of Songs requires effort, commitment, and a deep respect for Jehovah’s principles.
Reading this passage led me to ask myself: how many people, like me, hesitate to dedicate their lives to Jehovah because of the challenge of relinquishing such “delights”? For someone else, it might be something entirely different—music, art, or even personal ambitions. Yet, for many, the allure of romantic or physical connections is the most powerful. For me, this was the hardest test. It was the main reason I initially told my mother, “It’s not for me,” when she shared the hope of living in harmony with Jehovah’s purpose. It was also the most deeply ingrained challenge I had to overcome. But I did overcome it. The question is, how? What changed? These are important questions to explore—not because my journey is universal, but because it might resonate with others facing similar struggles. If you’ve felt the same pull, I hope my reflections will offer some insight. So, how did I overcome this deeply personal challenge? Let’s delve into it together.
Understanding Human Desire and Love Through Jehovah’s Design
The first thing to acknowledge is that Jehovah created humans with a strong sexual desire. This is not inherently negative; it is an integral and purposeful part of our design. In its purest form, sexual desire is animalistic, but in the best sense of the word. As one of the inspired sayings reminds us:"I also said in my heart about the sons of men that the true God will test them and show them that they are like animals, for there is an outcome for humans and an outcome for animals; they all have the same outcome. As the one dies, so the other dies; and they all have but one spirit. So man has no superiority over animals, for everything is futile."– Ecclesiastes 3:18, 19
This observation captures a fundamental truth: just as animals of opposite sexes are drawn to each other through powerful instincts, humans share this natural pull. Where humans differ, however, is in the complexity of their choices. A wide range of factors—emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual—are consciously or unconsciously evaluated in selecting a partner.
The responsibilities that come with passing life to the next generation mean that serious individuals approach this decision with care. Sadly, many are overwhelmed by animalistic forces and only realize the consequences after the fact. This can lead to misaligned partnerships, resulting in broken marriages, single parenthood, or abusive relationships. True love that endures between two people of opposite sex throughout their lives is, unfortunately, rare.
Shaped by a Single Mother’s Influence
Growing up with a single mother deeply instilled in me the importance of commitment and respect within relationships, especially the seriousness of staying loyal to "the wife of your youth"- Provebs of Solomon 5:18. Even during my time in the navy college, where the 'songs' of my classmates celebrated animalistic love with unrestrained enthusiasm, my mother’s early influence helped me maintain a certain standard of respect for relationships.
Despite my exposure to this environment, I could never bring myself to cross the line of disrespecting a girl who was in a relationship. If the possibility of fathering a child had ever arisen, my personal experience of being raised by a single mother would have made it impossible for me to abandon a pregnant girlfriend. Thankfully, it never came to that, as I continued to search for a relationship built on a foundation of admiration and shared values.
Outside of the truth, however, I never encountered a girl with whom I felt a connection deep enough to commit to for life. My girlfriends, while enjoyable company, were similar to the many ladies Solomon interacted with but did not find one among a thousand. Clearly, there is a much broader spectrum of qualities desirable in a lady with whom I could embark on the lifelong journey of being "one flesh." My mother's example was always before me—she never found another man after breaking with my biological father, a man who could become her Lord. Being raised in an incomplete family, I was hesitant to step into a serious, lifelong relationship with any of the girls I enjoyed spending time with.
While I never came close to Solomon’s scale of experience, I had enough interactions to feel a similar hopelessness in finding my "rare coral" while I remained outside of the true knowledge of God. When I became acquainted with Jehovah, His purpose, and His standards, I had to face the decision of what place I would allow for the exquisite delights of the sons of men in my life. In the chapter "My Solomon's Journey," you will see how Solomon’s writings guided me through this challenge. Here, I will simply mention that my personal experiences resonated deeply with his inspired works.
My mother often dismissed the girls in my life, much like Abraham casting away the birds from his sacrifices: “Then the birds of prey began to descend on the carcasses, but Abraham kept driving them away” (Genesis 15:11). Though awkward for me at the time, I now deeply appreciate how she protected me for the right moment. After experiencing so much and ultimately aligning with Solomon’s conclusions, I was prepared to exercise patience with the desires of my youth. Her words, "You can find a good Christian girl," finally made sense, and I was ready to wait for the right moment.
Shaped by Single Parenthood
I suspect that being raised by a single mother left a lasting imprint on my identity, steering me away from unsuitable relationships. Why do I believe this? I recall a moment from my high school graduation when our class teacher gave a personal blessing to each graduate as she handed out diplomas. Her words about me were particularly striking: she praised my respect for women and advised the girls in the class not to miss an opportunity to catch me as a husband.
These words stayed with me, though I didn’t know how to feel about them at the time. Looking back now, with 30 years of Christian maturity, I see them as a little summary of my childhood and teenage years. They are also a testament to my mother’s influence.
As Proverbs says, "Let someone else praise you, and not your own mouth; Others, and not your own lips." (Proverbs 27:2) My teacher’s comment felt like a witness to the values my mother had instilled in me. Even though I lacked a father’s influence in shaping my character, my mother’s dedication ensured I grew up with a deep respect for women and relationships. It’s clear to me now that this respect shaped how I approached relationships in my younger years, navigating me away from unwise choices and grounding me in the values that would later guide my life in the truth.
Overcoming Temptation and Finding True Fulfillment
While in navy college, my weekends were spent in clubs. But these weren’t the kinds of clubs you might imagine in the Western world. Coming from a communist background, officer’s houses were "clubs" where cadets and young women gathered sometimes under the watchful eye of a patrolling crew, ensuring that everything happened "decently and by arrangement." Despite the structured environment, these gatherings were a place where relationships could blossom, albeit briefly.
For a couple of years, I developed a relationship with a girl I met there. She stood out—gorgeous, refined, and more “lady” than shepherd girl. Though not of noble background, she carried herself with grace, and we were intoxicated by a mix of romantic and animalistic love. However, something always prevented us from progressing into a serious relationship. After I graduated and was assigned to the Far East, we naturally drifted apart without feeling a sense of loss.
When I returned to Moscow in 1994, she visited me again. By then, I had become an unbaptized publisher of Jehovah’s Witnesses, and my perspective on life had shifted dramatically. This visit became a test—a chance to see how far I had come in my transformation. The tension of old feelings remained, but my newfound faith and adherence to Jehovah’s moral standards gave me strength. I took her on a boat ferry across the Moscow River, deliberately choosing a setting where she couldn’t leave prematurely. There, I shared with her the same hope and faith my mother had shared with me during her heartfelt presentation in 1993.
She was visibly shocked by the transformation she saw in me. The man she remembered had been replaced by someone with a new purpose and clarity. I wasn’t intoxicated by our past relationship anymore; instead, I was filled with a much higher sense of joy and fulfillment—the joy of serving Jehovah. For the first time, I truly felt free from the pull of the “exquisite delights” that had once defined much of my life.
Looking back over my 30-year journey, I see that maintaining Jehovah’s moral standards wasn’t always easy. The struggle against my human, animalistic nature has been ongoing, but it has been worth every effort. As I’ve grown older—now 55—the fight has become somewhat easier, partly due to the natural diminishing of youthful desires. However, the most significant factor in my perseverance has been my love for Jehovah.
Jehovah chose me out of this world, granting me a credit of trust I didn’t deserve. Through his holy spirit, he gave me the strength I lacked, providing undeniable assurance that I am never alone. This relationship with Him has brought meaning to my life, filling me with satisfaction and happiness beyond anything I could have imagined.
For those of you considering how to avoid missing out on something truly meaningful, I hope my story about wrestling with "equisite delights" helps you make the right decision. Interestingly, Solomon, after experiencing every possible pleasure, came to the same conclusion:"The conclusion of the matter, everything having been heard, is: Fear the true God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole obligation of man. For the true God will judge every deed, including every hidden thing, as to whether it is good or bad." —Ecclesiastes 12:13,14. The journey may not always be easy, but the rewards are infinitely greater than anything this world can offer.
A Turning Point: Dedicating My Life to Jehovah
Even though my love for Jehovah still needed time to mature, my love for His truths and purposes already burned brightly. The feeling of His holy spirit was so delightful and fulfilling that it gave me the confidence and joy to dedicate my life to Him. In my prayer, I acknowledged the limitations of my own efforts to create a meaningful and successful life. I recognized the wisdom of His guidance and the privilege of living in harmony with His will.
I understood that my life would still be my journey, shaped by my choices and challenges. But in that pivotal moment, I asked Jehovah to take my body and life as His possession, to use me as an instrument in fulfilling His will. These thoughts were clear and heartfelt as I expressed them in my dedication prayer.
Looking back, I’ve gained a deeper appreciation of what that moment truly meant. Through that prayer, I was transferring ownership of my life to Jehovah, making myself His special possession. Although I immediately became active in sacred service, as you’ll read in the following chapters, it took time to fully comprehend the depth of belonging to Jehovah, rather than to myself.
In the chapter The Ransom, I share how the sacrifice of Jesus Christ touched my life—not as a distant doctrine, but as a personal rescue. It reached into my reality and rewrote the story of who I was and who I could become. Through that moment, my bond with Jehovah deepened, no longer just understood, but felt. And if my beloved permits me to unveil it, the chapter My Lady will tell of her quiet strength, her grace, and the role she played in that sacred turning point—a chapter of love woven into the very heart of redemption.